Why is it that the source of our greatest joy can also be the source of our greatest pain?
I believe that families hurt one another deeply because they love one another deeply. Parents who care so deeply about their children are surprised by the way their good intentions often spark battles. Teenagers who desire close relationships with their parents wonder why they can’t share their feelings with them, or why parents never seem to understand.
Given the power of the family both to love deeply and wound deeply, I believe that the most powerful way to bring about change is to utilize the resources of the entire family. I encourage parents to bring in the whole family so that everyone’s voice can be heard. By hearing each other’s stories, family members can learn to come around one another with empathy and acceptance, and change family patterns of discord and pain into patterns of affirmation and healing.